80 Views

Sir i tried to be confident but again stuck in fear of losing as i started at age 20 from scratch&feel banking is not my cup of tea but having it as my last option i went a year back for coaching when i was 19 but wasted time now feels that was ideal time now it will be very hectic?Is age 19 ideal


ayush 6th Jun, 2020
Answer (1)
priyaankasarkar Student Expert 6th Jun, 2020

Ayush, everyone dreams but very few people make their dreams come true. And it is upto you as to which Category you want to see yourself down the lane. It is you who has to decide whether you want to spend another year regretting the fact that you wasted a year or you want to move on from the past short comings and work hard to fulfill your dreams. If you feel banking is not your cup of tea, you shouldn't be even opting for it because it is not the last option. It is one of the many options that you have. If you think you have wasted one year, thinking about the wasted year you are wasting another year. And before you know, you would have wasted considerable no.of years just worrying that you wasted time. And you cannot bring back all those years even if you want to and then it will be very late to help yourself and decide on your career. Having doubts on self is normal but not willing to come out of it is difficult to deal with. So it is you who should decide whether you have it in you not to waste another year and start preparing or give it up and totally look for other options because just worrying never helped anyone. If you want to select Banking as your career, you need to put every doubt, every fear and every thought of wasted year aside and start preparing from now atleast.

2 Comments
Comments (2)
6th Jun, 2020
but how to get rid of all those fears
Fear of losing
Fear of is it late ?
fear of past?
Reply
Student Expert 6th Jun, 2020
ayush There is something called Acceptance and Commitment Theory in the field of Psychology. It is an intervention method that uses acceptance and meaningfulness in different ways. It is not a method of eliminating any particular behaviour. Rather it is acceptance of one's own inhibiting behaviour and mould our lives accordingly. This means you accept that you are no longer as curious you were before. But you mould your habits and lifestyle or working towards your dream in a way that you still work in fulfilling your passion. Maybe you should sit and write the reason you are no longer curious or passionate about something. If it was something like a bad experience or bad feedback that you had or heard, you should write it down and then evaluate the truth in it. You should maybe check the facts and see if what you felt or heard still holds true. And then you write down your current thoughts on your passion. It might be the lockdown talking or it might be because you found something else interesting. If it is just the lockdown talk, be assured that you will feel fresh once this situation passes. But if it has been there with you for a while, then accept the fact that your priorities have changed. Choose the correct course of action and decide on it. If you still want to stick on to your passion, maybe you need to rejuvenate yourself and get back on track. So do not shy away from thoughts that take away your curiosity. Face them and write them down. It might be laziness, it might be the discovery of a new passion, it might be lockdown, anything. Just write it down. Allow those thoughts in your mind and rationalise when you can and fight with them when you have to. Discover what is more important. Your flee of emotions or your passion. Set goals to act responsibly keeping in mind the long term. You cannot come back after a year and try to be passionate again. By then you would have lost the rhythm. Always remember that this is just a mind game and you need to reason with your brain and train your brain and not the other way round.
Reply

Related Questions

UPES Integrated LLB Admission...
Apply
Ranked #28 amongst Institutions in India by NIRF | Ranked #1 in India for Academic Reputation by QS University Rankings | 16.6 LPA Highest CTC
SLAT 2025 - The Symbiosis Law...
Apply
Conducted by Symbiosis International (Deemed University) | Ranked #5 in Law by NIRF | Ranked #2 among best Pvt Universities by QS World Rankings
Jindal Global Law School Admi...
Apply
Ranked #1 Law School in India & South Asia by QS- World University Rankings | Merit cum means scholarships
Symbiosis Law School Pune Adm...
Apply
NAAC A++ Accredited | Ranked #5 by NIRF
Nirma University Law Admissio...
Apply
Grade 'A+' accredited by NAAC
ISBR Business School PGDM Adm...
Apply
180+ Companies | Highest CTC 15 LPA | Average CTC 7.5 LPA | Ranked as Platinum Institute by AICTE for 6 years in a row | Awarded Best Business Scho...
View All Application Forms

Download the Careers360 App on your Android phone

Regular exam updates, QnA, Predictors, College Applications & E-books now on your Mobile

150M+ Students
30,000+ Colleges
500+ Exams
1500+ E-books